Planning Ahead
Talk of A Lifetime
The Funeral and Memorial Information Council (FAMIC) created Have the Talk of a Lifetime to help families have important conversations about the things that matter most to them and how a person’s life story can be remembered and honored in a meaningful way. Memorialization is so
如今，紀念的意義遠不止於此。它能夠反映一個人的人生故事、價值觀、興趣愛好和人生經驗。有意義的紀念活動可以帶來改變、療癒和慰藉。 《一生對話》為家庭提供實用建議和工具，幫助他們就最重要的事以及希望在離世後如何被後世銘記等話題展開對話。
為什麼進行這次談話很重要？
Deep down, most of us want to know that we, in some way, made a difference in this world. Having the Talk of a Lifetime can make the difference of a lifetime. It can help reacquaint us with our loved ones and help us get to know them in a new and different way. Sitting down with your loved ones to talk about their lives can be rich and satisfying. Learning about memorable events and people, places and favorite activities, values and lessons they have learned can help bring us closer to those we care about most. The talk helps us reaffirm to our loved ones how much they have impacted our life.
誰該和孩子談談？
You can have the talk of a lifetime with anyone you hold dear – your parents, children, grandparents, aunts and uncles, a spouse or a friend. It can happen anywhere you and your loved one are most comfortable – over a meal, at home, on a walk, at a family gathering or while playing a game. Your conversation can take place at any time, not just at the end of life.
How do I start the Talk?
有時，借助視覺提示，例如相簿、紀念品或紀念品，可以很好地開啟對話。一些令人難忘的地方，例如摯愛之人舉行婚禮的教堂或他們最喜歡的公園，也能幫助對方敞開心扉，分享他們的故事。你可以分享一段你們一起度過的難忘假期，一句你珍惜的建議，一首讓你想起他們的歌，或是你永遠不會忘記他們的理由。你可以在談話過程中或之後做筆記，也可以錄音。你應該根據談話的情境，選擇最適合、最舒適的方式。以下是一些可以用來開啟對話的問題：
- 你最引以為傲的成就是什麼？
- What was the one piece of advice you received from your parents or grandparents that you never forgot?
- Tell me about the most memorable summer you had growing up.
- 請告訴我你最喜歡的老師是誰；你從他/她身上學到了什麼？
- If you could spend a day doing anything you like, what would it be?
- 誰對你的影響最大？
